How to avoid deadly sins that ruin a relationship?

Love and romance are very unique experiences from one couple to the another.  But even though partnerships are distinct at the personal level, in a general sense, all relationships go through the same universal stages of evolution.  There’s the honeymoon phase, when everything is mysterious and new. Then there’s the acquaintance phase, where lives gradually merge into each other.  And if things go well, the commitment phase leads to lifelong marriage.  Everyone dreams of living happily ever after when they fall in love.  But the reality is that fairy-tale endings require a lifetime of good judgement.

Importance of Connection in a Relationship

Watch Out for the Landmines

It’s difficult to make a relationship succeed unless both partners are invested in supporting one another.  This means having an open mind, and keeping the spark alive, for better or worse. Award-Winning Therapist/Writer Dr. Barton Goldsmith advises that “Every successful relationship needs the care and nurturing of two committed adults giving to each other in a way that creates a mutually beneficial connection. Giving your relationship what it needs to thrive is a truly loving gesture.”

Here are a few damaging pitfalls to avoid if you want your love to stand the test of time:

1) Dishonesty

Lying to your partner never produces good outcomes.  Lies only beget more lies, and once they crumble on each other, it’s hard to pick up the pieces.

2) Dissatisfaction

Entering into a relationship with a desire to change your partner is a red flag.  It’s a sign that you don’t really accept them for who they are.  And this type of discontent is toxic.

3) Selfishness

Relationships are all about give and take.  They’re all about compromise and understanding.  Taking and taking and taking drains generosity away from the relationship.

4) Disapproval

Nobody likes to be around a nag.  The moment you form a couple with someone, it should be the two of you against the world.  Don’t complain more than you appreciate.

5) Arrogance

Couples get into fights all the time.  But not every fight should be winner-takes-all.  Learn to recognize when winning the fight, will only result in pyrrhic victory.

6) Pessimism

Sometimes love needs faith.  Love needs partners to believe in a bright future, even though today is dark.  Be the type of person who focuses on what’s right with the relationship.  Not what’s wrong.

7) Jealousy

One of the most important foundations of any relationship is trust. Constant jealousy is a sign of insecurity. And if jealousy is allowed to run rampant, it can spiral into desperate impulsiveness.

Conclusion

Falling in love isn’t an instantaneous event, it’s an unpredictable winding journey.  And the only way to make it work is with commitment.  Not just a commitment to be devoted to your partner, but a commitment to avoid all of the traps and mistakes which dampen your life together. Pay attention to your partner’s needs, and cater to them selflessly.  See them through compassionate eyes and be honorable. Take the good with the bad, and work to give your relationship fond memories.  If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative courses, workshops and events listed on our websites and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823-7757 to find out how The RISE Academy can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success. For business development coaching by Richard Martinez, call at 626-202-2291 or follow us on Facebook and Instagram.

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